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IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

I am a Fertility Survivor.  The kind you enter into treatments hoping you will never be... childless.  After several rounds of IUI and IVF, at some of the leading Fertility Centers, I was told I was no longer a candidate for fertility treatment.  It left me asking myself...

So now what?

For the years that followed, I tried to put myself back together and tell myself I would be OK, but I wasn't.  I was shattered - I felt alone and failed by the whole process and especially, my body.  I yearned for others that felt the pain I felt and someone that could help me navigate a life without a child. 

I didn't find it, so I decide to create it.  

Fast forward to today. I am still childless, but my beliefs about my life have changed.  I decided that I can create meaning and purpose in my life even though I am not a mother.  I've learned to love myself and the body I felt failed me as a woman.

If you've been on this journey, hop on and join me as we create something we were not offered.  Let's create a sisterhood for the bravest women I know.  We brush ourselves off and don't let terms like: Failed, Unexplained, Miscarriage, Not-viable or Advanced Maternal Age define us anymore.  

 

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Navigating Marriage After Infertility

Feb 13, 2024

Introduction: Wishing everyone a joyful Valentine's Day, whenever you may be listening. Today, on the 14th of February, let's delve into a significant topic – the dynamics of relationships post-infertility. We'll explore the journey, the challenges, and strategies to reignite the spark in a partnership.

Episode Highlights:

  1. The Challenge of Female Factor Infertility:

    • Delving into a personal experience with female factor infertility.
    • Examining the emotional toll and potential strain on relationships.
    • Reflecting on the envy and perceived unfairness associated with the burdens of infertility treatments.

  2. Navigating Resentment:

    • Discussing moments of resentment towards partners for differing roles during infertility struggles.
    • Acknowledging the validity of these emotions without casting blame.
    • Encouraging open communication between partners to address underlying feelings.

  3. Rebuilding Connection:

    • Sharing experiences of overcoming resentment and fostering a stronger connection with a spouse.
    • Asserting that regaining partnership is feasible after the challenges of infertility.
    • Encouraging listeners to communicate feelings openly, emphasizing understanding and empathy.

  4. Evolution of Desires:

    • Addressing the changing desires and interests in a relationship post-infertility.
    • Embracing personal growth and recognizing that desires evolve over time.
    • Stressing the importance of open dialogue regarding evolving expectations and aspirations.

  5. Valentine's Reflection:

    • Urging listeners to reflect on the unique qualities of their partners.
    • Encouraging couples to envision a future without children and explore ways to fulfill their marriage.
    • Reminding everyone that it's never too late to find deeper meaning in their relationships.

Conclusion: As you navigate love after infertility, remember that many share this journey. A partnership can thrive with open communication, understanding, and a commitment to mutual growth. Embrace the unique bond you share, and let this Valentine's Day serve as a reminder that love evolves but remains resilient. Wishing you a beautiful week filled with love and self-discovery. Until next week, remember, it's never too late to discover the deeper meaning in your relationships. Much love to all!