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IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

I am a Fertility Survivor.  The kind you enter into treatments hoping you will never be... childless.  After several rounds of IUI and IVF, at some of the leading Fertility Centers, I was told I was no longer a candidate for fertility treatment.  It left me asking myself...

So now what?

For the years that followed, I tried to put myself back together and tell myself I would be OK, but I wasn't.  I was shattered - I felt alone and failed by the whole process and especially, my body.  I yearned for others that felt the pain I felt and someone that could help me navigate a life without a child. 

I didn't find it, so I decide to create it.  

Fast forward to today. I am still childless, but my beliefs about my life have changed.  I decided that I can create meaning and purpose in my life even though I am not a mother.  I've learned to love myself and the body I felt failed me as a woman.

If you've been on this journey, hop on and join me as we create something we were not offered.  Let's create a sisterhood for the bravest women I know.  We brush ourselves off and don't let terms like: Failed, Unexplained, Miscarriage, Not-viable or Advanced Maternal Age define us anymore.  

 

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Feeling Like a Failure After IVF Fails

Jun 26, 2024

Feeling Like a Failure After IVF Fails

Introduction: Welcome back to another heartfelt episode of Thrive After Infertility. I'm Lana, and this week, we are rolling up our sleeves and diving deep into what it means to feel like a failure, especially after the challenging journey of IVF and fertility treatments. This episode is for all the incredible women out there who have struggled with these feelings and are ready to redefine their stories.

Key Points Covered:

  1. Understanding the Fear of Failure:

    • The fear of failure often starts at a young age, influenced by family and cultural norms.

    • Many of us have been taught to hide our struggles and present a picture-perfect life.

  2. Navigating Infertility and IVF:

    • Personal reflections on the pressure to do everything "right" during fertility treatments.

    • The emotional toll of feeling like you're not good enough as a fertility patient.

  3. Changing the Narrative:

    • The impact of being labeled as a "failed" IVF patient and how that affects self-perception.

    • The empowering shift from viewing oneself as a failure to seeing IVF treatments as the ones that failed.

  4. Personal Growth and Life Coaching:

    • How becoming a Certified Life Coach helped me change my perspective on failure.

    • The importance of deciding how to relate to the word "failure" and choosing a narrative that empowers you.

  5. Introducing the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind:

    • Exciting news about the upcoming Thrive 2.0 program, designed to help women find fulfillment and thrive after infertility.

    • Details on how to join and the benefits of being part of this transformative community.

Special Announcement: I'm thrilled to announce a new resource for those of you on my mailing list, all about handling the things people say and how to respond to them in empowering ways. This unique resource is created especially for you, so be sure to follow me on social media and sign up to get access.

Closing Thoughts: Remember, you are not a failure. You are a beautiful, courageous soul who has shown immense strength and resilience. Let's redefine what it means to thrive and embrace a life full of meaning and fulfillment, even without the children we dreamed of.

Thank you for joining me this week. I love you all, and remember, it's never too late to discover your true meaning.