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IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

I am a Fertility Survivor.  The kind you enter into treatments hoping you will never be... childless.  After several rounds of IUI and IVF, at some of the leading Fertility Centers, I was told I was no longer a candidate for fertility treatment.  It left me asking myself...

So now what?

For the years that followed, I tried to put myself back together and tell myself I would be OK, but I wasn't.  I was shattered - I felt alone and failed by the whole process and especially, my body.  I yearned for others that felt the pain I felt and someone that could help me navigate a life without a child. 

I didn't find it, so I decide to create it.  

Fast forward to today. I am still childless, but my beliefs about my life have changed.  I decided that I can create meaning and purpose in my life even though I am not a mother.  I've learned to love myself and the body I felt failed me as a woman.

If you've been on this journey, hop on and join me as we create something we were not offered.  Let's create a sisterhood for the bravest women I know.  We brush ourselves off and don't let terms like: Failed, Unexplained, Miscarriage, Not-viable or Advanced Maternal Age define us anymore.  

 

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Embracing Change in Relationships After Infertility

Feb 7, 2024

Welcome to a new month, and if you're here, you're already taking a step towards creating a life that aligns with your true self. In this episode, we delve into the excitement and challenges of February. If you started the year with ambitious goals, now is the perfect time to evaluate whether they resonate with your authentic desires.

Reflection and Redefinition:

  • Discover the joy in evaluating and dropping goals that don't align with your passion.

  • Episode reference: Explore choosing goals that feel easy and fun, avoiding the burden of heavy expectations.

February Focus: Relationships After Infertility:

  • February is all about relationships, especially for those who've undergone fertility treatments without becoming parents.

  • Relationships change post-infertility, causing unease or a sense of detachment.

  • Throughout the month, we'll explore managing and redefining relationships with partners, friends, family, and colleagues.

Fluidity in Relationships:

  • Challenge the idea that relationships must last a lifetime; fluidity can lead to personal growth.

  • Embrace change in relationships; it might open new opportunities or redefine existing connections.

Finding New Connections:

  • Discuss the challenges of making new friends when childless.

  • The importance of seeking like-minded individuals, leading to the creation of supportive communities like Lana's Chicagoland meetup group.

Wardrobe Analogy: Relationships as Clothes:

  • Relationships, like clothes, can be go-to staples or items you cycle out over time.

  • Embrace change, allowing relationships to evolve or gracefully conclude.

Invitation to Free Coaching Sessions:

  • Lana is pursuing an advanced certification in post-traumatic grief.

  • Seeking volunteers for free coaching sessions to strengthen her skills in supporting those experiencing grief after infertility.

  • Reach out via Instagram DM or email to participate.

Thrive After Infertility Program:

  • Lana announces the start of her Thrive After Infertility program.

  • A unique approach, different from previous classes, designed to support personal growth after infertility.

  • Encourages those who couldn't join this round to consider future classes.

Others Day Brunch:

  • Mark your calendars for the Others Day Brunch on May 11th in Chicago.

  • A gathering for women facing various challenges related to motherhood, including those without a mother or strained relationships.

  • Book your ticket or join the waitlist for an elegant, champagne-filled event.

Closing Thoughts:

  • Emphasizes that it's never too late to discover your meaning and encourages listeners to embrace change.

  • Expresses love and wishes for a beautiful week.

Join us next week for more insightful discussions. Until then, remember, it's okay to evolve, it's okay to embrace change, and it's never too late to redefine your path. Have a wonderful week!