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IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

I am a Fertility Survivor.  The kind you enter into treatments hoping you will never be... childless.  After several rounds of IUI and IVF, at some of the leading Fertility Centers, I was told I was no longer a candidate for fertility treatment.  It left me asking myself...

So now what?

For the years that followed, I tried to put myself back together and tell myself I would be OK, but I wasn't.  I was shattered - I felt alone and failed by the whole process and especially, my body.  I yearned for others that felt the pain I felt and someone that could help me navigate a life without a child. 

I didn't find it, so I decide to create it.  

Fast forward to today. I am still childless, but my beliefs about my life have changed.  I decided that I can create meaning and purpose in my life even though I am not a mother.  I've learned to love myself and the body I felt failed me as a woman.

If you've been on this journey, hop on and join me as we create something we were not offered.  Let's create a sisterhood for the bravest women I know.  We brush ourselves off and don't let terms like: Failed, Unexplained, Miscarriage, Not-viable or Advanced Maternal Age define us anymore.  

 

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Creating Goals through Habits Part 2

Oct 17, 2023

Welcome to another episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast. In today's episode, we continue our exploration of achieving your goals through the power of habits. If you missed our last episode (Episode 102), I highly recommend going back and listening to it before diving into this one, as it lays the foundation for what we're discussing today.

Recap from Episode 102

  • In our previous episode, we discussed the reasons why we often fail to establish and maintain the habits necessary to achieve our goals.

  • We talked about the importance of brainstorming your goals and ranking them based on importance and impact.

The Importance of "Why"

  • In this episode, we dive deeper into the process of creating and sustaining habits that drive us towards our goals.

  • One crucial aspect of this journey is understanding the "why" behind your goals.

  • It's essential to ensure that the goals you choose are aligned with your personal desires and values.

  • Ask yourself, "Why is this goal important to me?" You should feel a deep personal attachment to your chosen goals.

  • For example, my goal of moving more is essential because I want to maintain good bone density, move freely, and avoid physical pain as I age.

  • Vitamins and meal planning are vital to me because they contribute to my overall well-being and help me feel and look my best.

Goal Alignment

  • We need to differentiate between goals we choose for ourselves and goals imposed by external influences, such as partners or employers.

  • Your personal attachment to a goal will significantly impact your motivation and commitment.

Dealing with Off Days

  • Understand that there will be days when you don't feel like pursuing your habits or goals, and that's perfectly normal.

  • These off days are part of being human, and there's no shame in experiencing them.

  • It's crucial to evaluate the reasons behind these decisions.

  • For instance, if you skip a day of exercise, consider why. Is it due to fatigue, a hectic schedule, or lack of access to a gym?

  • Regardless of the reason, remind yourself that one missed day doesn't mean you should give up on your goal.

  • Reflect on whether you like your reasons for skipping the habit and whether it aligns with your long-term goals.

Choose What's Right for You

  • The power to choose and understand your motivations is within your control.

  • Your habits should align with your personal preferences and values, not someone else's expectations.

  • Achieving your goals through habits becomes more manageable as these habits become part of your routine.

Conclusion

  • Goals are simply a collection of habits, and they should be easy for you to maintain once they become ingrained in your daily life.

  • Remember, it's never too late to discover your true purpose and meaning.

  • Join us in the next episode as we continue our journey towards a more purposeful and fulfilling life.

Thank you for listening, and we wish you a wonderful week ahead.