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IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

I am a Fertility Survivor.  The kind you enter into treatments hoping you will never be... childless.  After several rounds of IUI and IVF, at some of the leading Fertility Centers, I was told I was no longer a candidate for fertility treatment.  It left me asking myself...

So now what?

For the years that followed, I tried to put myself back together and tell myself I would be OK, but I wasn't.  I was shattered - I felt alone and failed by the whole process and especially, my body.  I yearned for others that felt the pain I felt and someone that could help me navigate a life without a child. 

I didn't find it, so I decide to create it.  

Fast forward to today. I am still childless, but my beliefs about my life have changed.  I decided that I can create meaning and purpose in my life even though I am not a mother.  I've learned to love myself and the body I felt failed me as a woman.

If you've been on this journey, hop on and join me as we create something we were not offered.  Let's create a sisterhood for the bravest women I know.  We brush ourselves off and don't let terms like: Failed, Unexplained, Miscarriage, Not-viable or Advanced Maternal Age define us anymore.  

 

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Navigating Mother's Day as a Childless Woman After Infertility

May 7, 2024

When you're childless after infertilityMother's Day can be a challenge. It's a time that can feel heavy with reminders and emotions, but fear not, I'm here to walk you through it with care and compassion.

Finding Peace Amidst the Mother's Day Buzz:

  • Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's okay to feel a mix of emotions during this time. Whether it's sadness, anger, or even ambivalence, give yourself permission to feel what you feel without judgment.

  • Create Boundaries: Opt out of Mother's Day-related emails and social media if they're triggering for you. Your mental health comes first, and setting boundaries is an act of self-love.

Crafting Your Own Meaningful Mother's Day:

  • Plan Your Day: Take control of how you spend Mother's Day. Whether it's hosting a gathering, indulging in self-care, or simply taking a quiet moment for reflection, prioritize activities that bring you peace and joy.

  • Write Yourself a Letter: Channel your inner Hallmark and write yourself a heartfelt Mother's Day card. Celebrate the qualities that make you proud, and affirm your worthiness of love and recognition.

Cultivating Gratitude and Connection:

  • Express Appreciation: Reach out to the people in your life who've supported you on your journey. Let them know how much their presence means to you, and express gratitude for their love and understanding.

Remembering Your Worth Beyond Motherhood:

  • Reflect on Your Significance: Take time to reflect on the meaningful contributions you make to the world, regardless of your parental status. Your worth is not defined by motherhood, but by the unique essence of who you are.

As you navigate Mother's Day, know that you're not alone. Your journey is valid, and your feelings are heard and honored. Take this time to care for yourself, to acknowledge your strength, and to embrace the beauty of your unique path. You are worthy of love, celebration, and belonging, today and every day.