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IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

I am a Fertility Survivor.  The kind you enter into treatments hoping you will never be... childless.  After several rounds of IUI and IVF, at some of the leading Fertility Centers, I was told I was no longer a candidate for fertility treatment.  It left me asking myself...

So now what?

For the years that followed, I tried to put myself back together and tell myself I would be OK, but I wasn't.  I was shattered - I felt alone and failed by the whole process and especially, my body.  I yearned for others that felt the pain I felt and someone that could help me navigate a life without a child. 

I didn't find it, so I decide to create it.  

Fast forward to today. I am still childless, but my beliefs about my life have changed.  I decided that I can create meaning and purpose in my life even though I am not a mother.  I've learned to love myself and the body I felt failed me as a woman.

If you've been on this journey, hop on and join me as we create something we were not offered.  Let's create a sisterhood for the bravest women I know.  We brush ourselves off and don't let terms like: Failed, Unexplained, Miscarriage, Not-viable or Advanced Maternal Age define us anymore.  

 

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How Childless Women Can Navigate the Holidays Ahead

Nov 25, 2025

Episode 192: How Childless Women Can Navigate the Holidays Ahead

The holiday season can feel emotionally heavy when you’re childless after infertility. In this episode, Lana explains why Thanksgiving and Christmas can stir up overwhelm, anxiety, numbness, and confusion when you always imagined this season with a child of your own. You’ll learn how your brain and nervous system respond during this time of year, why nothing about your reaction means you’re doing anything wrong, and how to feel more grounded and supported as the holidays approach.

The holidays can feel complicated when you’re childless after infertility. That knot in your stomach during Thanksgiving or Christmas is not your imagination. Whether you are done with fertility treatments, still navigating IVF or IUI, or childless by circumstance, this season can shine a spotlight on the life you thought you would be living by now.

In this episode, you learn why the holidays often stir up so much emotion and why nothing about your experience means you’re doing anything wrong. You’ll understand how your brain and nervous system interpret this season, why old neural pathways get activated, and why your reactions are very normal for women who are childless after infertility or childless not by choice.

Inside the episode, you’ll learn:
• How neural pathways built during your fertility journey impact your holidays
• Why unpredictability around the holidays activates your nervous system
• Why numbness is normal when the season feels emotionally loaded
• Why family gatherings can trigger isolation even when you’re loved
• How to stop blaming yourself for how you feel this time of year
• How to stay grounded when traditions center around children
• Why you don’t have to sit out of Christmas just because you don’t have kids

If you want real tools and support to help you feel more prepared and confident this year, join my free live class on Tuesday, December 16 at 11:30 AM Central:

How to Deal with Your Family, Create Traditions, and Manage Celebrations Without Kids

Register here!

You deserve to feel grounded, steady, and in control of the rooms you walk into this season.

And if you want help responding to the comments people make when they don’t understand your experience, download my free guide HERE!
The Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless and How to Respond.